Needless to say, for these still Princesses-in-waiting, Grandma caught us and after she was done scolding, we were given one piece of advice: Just because you shut a broken dish back into the cupboard it does not mean the dish did not break You will have to face it sooner or later. So tell the truth, accept the punishment and move on.
In this modern day fairy tale, my ability to lie about broken dishes went away at age five. One can read my face like an open book and truth be told I could not be happier. I say what I mean, even if it comes with conflict and although I would rather keep my mouth closed than hurt someone's feelings I have learned the graceful art of dancing around something someone may not want to hear. Being a lady is not always easy. Boys get away with it because, well, they are boys and they just don't know better (as my Momma reads this I can hear her saying, "oh but your little boys will know better" - which yes, they will).
Ladies, always remember that a pretty face is not a free card through life. Being nice, genuine and honest will take you farther in life than you could ever imagine. My two amazing Grandmothers have not only taught me patience and given me the ability to cook a phenomenal meal but also a few important rules that I have come to live by at age 26:
- Never be afraid to say "hello" first. You never know how much your smile and kind words will mean to someone. Even a stranger.
- If what you have to say is not so nice but you need to say it, always remember to follow it with a compliment.
- The fastest way to a man's heart is with a compliment and telling him you like his shoes might just be the words he needed to hear to put a smile on that handsome face. Coincidentally, the fastest way to a woman's heart is the same way.
- Always say "I love you". These three words mean so much to those you actually do love and are three words not spoken nearly enough. I love you.
- Do not, under any circumstances, lie about breaking your Grandmother's dishes. She is the one woman in your life who will always have authority to scold you, no matter how old you get. My Grandma still scolds me (even though I am the favorite granddaughter :)
- Be nice. It is not hard.
- Put some color on those kissers, suck in and stand up straight.
- Do not, under any circumstances let your mother set you up on a date (sorry Mom).
- You are fabulous. DO NOT ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
- You are never too old to need your Mom or your Grandma.
- Call your Grandma. I guarantee she is one person that will absolutely love to hear your voice more often.
This grown up little blonde girl learned one more thing from her Grandmother, "no" is not a word in my dictionary...simply a modified version of the word "yes".
XOXO (from the little blonde dish-breaking girl),